8 Sexy Games to Spice Up Your Relationship
Even if you have an excellent relationship, day-to-day hassles might make sex less of a priority. To the rescue: sexy games guaranteed to give you more sizzle between the sheets…
Whatever the reasons behind them, sexual difficulties are common, and can cause friction in even the best relationship.
So if you care for each other and yourself, you’ll need to work on getting your sex life back on track and better than ever.
Sexy games can help, especially if your relationship is healthy but simply lacks a bit of spice.
But if you’re experiencing real problems, then a surface-level fix might not be enough. Instead, consider visiting a qualified therapist.
Let the Sexy Games Begin
Sexy games for couples run the gamut from simple to complex.
You can purchase elaborate games with a variety of props from any sex shop or novelty store. Many couples find store-bought games help to set the stage, and can ease giggling or nervousness.
However, some couples prefer to make up their own sexy games.
Here are a few fun and frisky ones to try…
1. Truth or Dare
Turn this teenage slumber party favorite into a fun and sexy game for you and your partner. The only requirement: your imagination!
Start with each of you writing down at least five dares — they can be outrageous or lighten the mood (for example, have your husband wear one of your sexy bras). Or get more sensual. (“I dare you to allow me to do sexual act xyz,” or “I dare you to perform sexual act xyz on me.”)
Toss the pieces of paper into a hat and begin the game by one person asking the other, “Truth or dare?”
If your partner responds with “truth,” ask a question that you’ve been burning to know the answer to.
Make it provocative and fun. Consider dressing in suggestive lingerie with a glass of wine for each of you as the game proceeds.
2. Guess What This Is
This game requires some thinking and planning. Start by thinking tactile. What could be used on your lover’s skin to create goose bumps?
Some prop ideas:
A piece of fur
Light string or rope
A soft ball
A back scratcher
Let your mind go wickedly wild. Assemble all the textures and place them in a basket.
Blindfold your partner with a silk tie.
Begin by massaging your partner with an item from the basket. Without talking or making a sound, massage his body and let him guess what is touching his skin.
3. Painting for Pleasure
The couple that paints together stays together — or at the very least enjoys an artistic afternoon with body paints.
Purchase body paints from stores that carry personal luxury bath items.
The Kama Sutra company sells a boxed set of dark and milk chocolate body paints.
An edible dusting powder paired with soft brushes makes for a delicious, sexy game of painting each other’s body and then licking off the decadent chocolate.
Or make your own body paints at home with syrups for sundaes, such as butterscotch, strawberry, caramel and chocolate.
4. Picnic in Bed — Blindfolded
A twist to the tactile game is the sensual tasting game. Blindfold your partner and feed him various foods, both warm and cold.
Start with a bite of warm croissant dripping with butter and then a quick taste of freezing cold ice cream.
Squirt whipped cream on your fingertips and lightly touch his lips with each creamy finger.
Peel a grape, let him nibble on a strawberry and place just a drop of wine on his lower lip.
Offer him hot tomato soup, but not so hot that it might burn his mouth.
Peel a banana and use it suggestively over his lips.
Who knew that food could be so erotically wonderful?
5. Role Play
Many adventurous couples know that role-playing is an exciting way to spice up their sex lives.
Have a thing for men in uniform? Have your partner dress as a police officer or soldier.
Or you can dress up as a nurse or any other character you can imagine.
You and your partner should perform “in character” when wearing the outfits, leading to all sorts of sexy scenarios, including:
Temptress, cheerleader or French maid
Marauding pirate and wicked wench
Create your own costumes or head for a costume store to complete the look. The possibilities are all there, just waiting to be tried on and turned into erotic fun.
6. Strip Poker
An oldie but goodie, strip poker is a surefire way to rekindle your passion.
Start with an equal number of clothing items, and remove one item whenever you lose a hand.
Once you’re naked or almost naked, move on to performing sexual acts whenever you lose a hand.
7. Sexy Chutes and Ladders
Purchase a sexy board game or make one of your own.
These games generally follow simple rules, but require acts ranging from the sensual to the truly wild.
Sexy card games work along the same lines, requiring partners to take turns pleasuring each other in a variety of ways.
If you want to build your own, follow these steps:
Write sexual acts, some mild and some exotic, on each card.
Throw the cards into a bowl or a hat and take turns drawing a card at random.
Whoever draws the card must decide whether to perform the act on the other person or have the act performed on him.
8. Out on the Town
As your confidence increases, you and your partner could move on to sexy games outside the comforts of home.
Perhaps you could take your role-playing experiments into a public place, posing as characters that meet in a bar and pick each other up.
Some couples visit strip clubs or porn theaters together.
How to Initiate Sexy Games
The key to developing sexy games for couples is trust. You and your partner must trust each other fully. You should also share a common interest in sexual exploration.
Having difficulty broaching the idea of sexy games with your partner?
Try one of these tactics…
Broach the subject by referring to a magazine article you may have read.
Bring up a sexy game that you may have heard of, and ask your partner what he thinks of giving it a try.
Approach the topic directly. Buy a sexy game as a present to your partner or suggest a round of strip poker the next time the two of you are alone.
Instead of the usual tie or sweater for the next holiday, give him a card containing 52 “love coupons.” Each can be redeemed for whatever sexy act is depicted on the card. Tell him that he is entitled to redeem one coupon a week for the next year.
Setting Ground Rules
Set ground rules before playing sexy games. Both partners must be able to end the game at any time — for any reason.
Establish “safe words.” Some couples find that especially during role-playing games, a “safe word” helps their confidence level. It’s a word that is not likely to come up during your game session.
Either partner can use the safe word at any time as a sign to end the game immediately. It’s extremely important that both partners respect each other enough to respect the use of the safe word and end the game without question.
Respect each other’s vulnerability. Never laugh at your partner when playing sexy games. Some of the situations may be silly, and certainly giggling can be a healthy part of a good sex life. But laughing at your partner may cause him to clam up and be unwilling to participate in future sexy games.
People tend to be more vulnerable during sexual situations, so always treat your partner with tenderness and respect.
More tips to keep sexy games fun. . .
Don’t attack your partner or attempt to force him or her to do anything that makes him feel comfortable.
Never bring up sexy games as a “fix” for problems. Make the games feel like a fun addition to a great relationship rather than a necessary attempt at repairing a broken relationship.
Nurture your partner’s attempts during sexy games. It’s possible that no matter how wonderful the police uniform, for example, your partner will simply be unable to play the part convincingly.
Resist the urge to direct the scene and simply revel in the exploration of your deepest fantasies.
Enjoy yourself and enjoy your partner.As you continue to gain confidence, you can move into progressively more sexy games.